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Paloma Faith – How You Leave A Man

In “How You Leave A Man,” Paloma Faith advises listeners on how to leave an unfaithful marriage behind and never look back. As always, Faith’s unique voice is enough to drive someone to an emotional place. Now, imagine her using that voice to sing about a situation that can often be soul crushing. The result is what we have in “How You Leave A Man” – the singer’s first single in three years.

The single is especially coming at a time of emotional unraveling for the star, who recently revealed that living with her husband for “the last few years” have made her “come closer to failure, to despair, to grief and loss than ever in my life. And I wasn’t happy, I wasn’t mentally well, and I had to do something about it.”

“He’ll know / When you’re tired of neglect and degraded / He’ll find out when he wakes up alone,” Faith sings, before going on to advise, “He’ll call you ten times but don’t take it / Don’t take it.”

In October, Faith spoke to the Evening Standard about the track, whilst also sharing tidbits about the upcoming “pretty personal” album, revealing that her young daughters danced along to it, even though they couldn’t truly grasp the meaning of the song.

The BRIT-Award-winning artist said: “I am excited and nervous, because it is – as you can hear by the title – pretty personal. Especially with two children. [Making music] is always personal, it just so happens that this happens to be probably one of the most life-changing moments of my life. I guess I have no choice.”

She continued: “It is weird, watching your kids dancing around to a song without grasping what it is about. I’m like.. ‘Oh my god.’ I am nervous, but I am also quite proud of it. I can’t say I won’t erupt into tears in every interview…”

“How You Leave A Man” may address a painful situation, but it’s not painful. Instead, it bears an empowering message that encourages women to find happiness and strength on their own.

In the music video, Faith is venting her frustrations while driving along in a car. Most of the time she lets go of the wheel, while the car continues to drive itself, and even attempts to climb out through the window from the speeding car. I have to say that the video matched the song’s emotional intensity, especially in the end when one of the two kids at the back of the car asked, “Mama, can we go home?”

To steal a line from Madison Beer, “I’m sorry if you can relate.”